Time for Tea & Tulips

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Who has the time you ask? The answer is really… we all do!

I am sure most of you know what I am talking about…we stress out over how little time we actually have in our days instead of actually doing something about it. If you are like me you wonder where the hell the day went?? how on earth did the time fly by and how do I make it slow down?!?

Well, there is not a way to slow down time unless one of you have some sort of super human awesome power to control time and if you do have that power (or any other power) please send me an email stat! What we can do is consciously carve out a few minutes in our days for tea & tulips, coffee & chocolate, popcorn & phone calls, couch time with your cat…. I am sure you are getting the idea here.

Think of the reward, it would so be worth it. A moment to breathe, quiet time…beautiful us only time! How much happier and stress free we could all be! Ironically, this tea and tulip time was a few moments I had on Tuesday & I was so busy I could not post until today. That made the wheels in my head churn. So, I made myself slow down, hot coffee next to me (decaf) and write.  I enjoy writing, it is relaxing for me, so I carved out ten minutes to add this darling post. Already I feel like I can tackle the world (well, at least the day) and yes on my tippi toes!

XOXO

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I Stand With You, Not Against You

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Oh hello there, it’s been a little while, the holidays had me focused on relaxing and enjoying my time with loved ones…so after a little time off, here I am! (crowd goes wild) My first post of 2015 is an important message for every lovely lady out there.  Recently I was in ear shot of some unbelievably horrible behavior involving human beings… (hold onto your seat) this is a hard one to guess… it was a bunch of women. (can you believe it? insert shocked face here)…my own kind, my sisters? my partners in crime? my role models? Now, I am not going to get deep into the story but I can tell you it involves women being cruel, catty, having no confidence (which makes me sad) and just being super mean. It has nothing to do with me mind you, just something I witnessed, but I am so sick of this dreadful behavior and need to discuss it.

 Now I have been exposed to this behavior before many times by women around me, (even my own so-called friends) I have been treated badly or been an outcast because of someone else insecurity issues…(I am sure many of you all have experienced this) but never a victim mind you, for I am and always have been confident (not cocky or arrogant) just simply confident. I did not get that confidence from the teachings of my Mother, Sister, Aunt or any role model actually. I found it in myself (go me! woo hoo) I have a handful of nieces and friends with daughters… I wonder will they learn that confidence is key, kindness is a must and loving yourself is the most important love ever.  So as the new year begins I have a little something that I would like to share, I hope it gives you all something to hold onto, practice and preach.

 Learn how to give and except compliments from and to other women. 

Try it, nothing bad is going to happen.. you won’t melt, your tongue won’t fall off and your teeth will stay intact, open up your mouth smile and say something nice. Maybe you only like getting compliments, OK than…well think about how it makes you feel, why would you not want to share that feeling? When a woman compliments another woman, that shows confidence & strength. Weakness and insecurity, well that is putting another woman down.. it takes way more energy to be angry/mean than kind and thoughtful. let’s be role models: get it into your heads, there will always be someone prettier, richer, funnier, happier, stronger (I can keep going here) that does not mean that we are less or that they are better.

My favorite line is “oh she does not need it”, or “she already knows” (let’s say she is super model gorgeous) oh OK really… how do you know?… what if she gets a hundred compliments a day but the only one that matters is yours?! Women don’t dress up for men, women dress up for other women…they are looking for your approval. I give out compliments all day long and I mean them, I don’t just throw them around (nothing ever backhanded) I call it as I see it, if you are fabulous or have done something awesome, I am going to tell you and that is it.  I have made people cry by just saying something nice…. I won’t and can’t stop ever. It’s the best feeling in the world making someone else’s day.

And please learn how to take a compliment, just say “Thank you” We women have this odd urge to do this…… oh my hair is off, or I have bags under my eyes, or I am so bloated… just say “thank you” It is OK to be appreciated, admired and doted on.  Enjoy it, take it in and soak it up!

Can we stop treating each other like rivals? 

 I noticed an abundance of no love and support toward other women even on social media. Some women can take all the support and compliments a person can muster, but never ever return it. If you like someone’s work, art, photos, or blog. If you think they are lovely…tell them, follow them, support them. In order to live a positive life, you need to spread positive vibes and give back. I so wish everyone would give it a try, the worst thing that could happen is you make someone’s day and you might find your self smiling from ear to ear.

I am not your competition, you are not mine!

Start saying that phrase  over and over until it sinks in.  The truth remains, most women/girls treat each other like bitter rivals. Now not every woman is like this, I certainly am not and I know plenty of wonderful woman & you my reader maybe one of them. So for 2015, how about we stop criticizing each other’s personalities? No more comparing ourselves to other woman. Let’s put and end to being jealous or un-happy when another woman accomplishes something wonderful. Stop shaming each other and enough with being fake already!..oh and stop being a green-eyed monster (um, if you have green eyes, then just stop being a monster!)  Let’s start supporting, complimenting and celebrating each other. We are a team ladies, and well… there is no I in team.

XOXO

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All is Calm

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All is bright

Dashing through the snow? it’s more like trudging through the sand. The water might be cold and the air a little brisk, but a California Christmas comes with its own glitter, sparkle and glow. Our Christmas eve tradition is a visit to the beach, a bottle of wine and a blanket…this year the rain changed our happily scheduled date with the ocean (bah humbug)

The day after Christmas this year would have to do, no bottle, or blanket as we set out for a small hike before making our way to our beloved beach. Grabbing my sweater I noticed a lone Christmas ornament in my car…(an escapee from decorating a clients home).  A single sparkling ball that would rather explore the California beaches with us than be stuck in a glass cylinder! (don’t blame it one bit) So I thought “why not?” & that ball made for some wonderful pictures, memories and laughter…not too mention now we have a new tradition for next year.

XOXO

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With Warm Greetings

Cozy Mornings

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 Tasty Treats

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Wishing You All A Marvelously Merry Holiday

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The morning started off rolling out of bed, stumbling for coffee after a little too much wine, cheese & pâté last night (sighs) leaving my three loves behind cozy comfy without a care in the world as they slumber. I sip my coffee and happily get into my workout gear so I can train my 7:00 AM Face Time client.

Needless to say after training I am wide awake, just can’t lay back down now. Deep thinking about the past three years of our lives and how it has changed so drastically (in an amazing way) Missing our family and close friends as we are so many miles away, but realizing how incredibly blessed we are (pausing to thank the big guy upstairs). If we did not leave the East Coast to try something new, we would have never grown. Life is meant to be lived and fully…the world is so vast & to be a bean in a tiny pod is no way to live.

Packing up everything & driving across country to reside in beautiful California (still feels like a dream) was the most amazing thing we have ever done together. I feel as if our bean in the little pod is now a huge bean stalk growing taller and fuller each day. I can not wait to see what lies ahead, the best and biggest gift is life. No matter where you are or who you are with.. make the most of it. Just remember to live… this Christmas I have everything I want under my tree….(actually in bed still sleeping, all three!)

Merry Merry to you and yours… XOXO

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Wishing You All Peace

& Joy

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unnamed (5)Happy Monday friends! This morning finds me attempting to get all my Christmas cards done (notice I said attempting) every time you think you are finished you realize you left someone out! The neighbor, the dentist, the nice lady at the nail salon that always gives you a longer massage than everyone else because you are her favorite.

This is my second year in a row I have used this wonderful company called Paper Culture. A green company that uses 100% post-consumer recycled paper which means no trees are cut down. They plant a tree for you with your purchase and let you dedicate it to someone….this year I dedicated  the tree to my beautiful cousin who was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. It means so much knowing life will happen and a tree will grow in the name of my family.  They also send you a lovely little packet of seeds for you to plant a tree, such a fantastic way to celebrate the season and give back.

The photos on the cards are photos taken by me, the front is of sunny California (lately rainy damp and I need my own boat to get around) the photo on the back is an usie that we took at sunset. I was so impressed with my cards last year and this year too, I can not imagine using another company ever again! If you have not ordered your cards already take a moment stop by their site just click on Paper Culture above and your off!

XOXO

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Oh What Fun

It is to decorate someone else’s home for a holiday party!

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unnamed (23)A little glitter and glow with a few simple holiday touches to add comfort & joy. I have the best clients, for not only did I decorate this entire loft when they moved in (the photos are just of the living & dinning space) I was asked back to decorate with just a few holiday touches for a small dinner party (hence the empty serving dishes which will be filled with goodies) The lovely family whose home I decorated today will be leaving for the holidays so no tree was needed nor lots of holiday fluff.

In this modern cozy loft every last detail you see I picked out and placed about the room, each piece of furniture down to littlest vase. The homeowner is a great artist (she will read this and give me an eye roll or tell me to hush) so her wall art is one of a kind, with a few pieces I made or had made for the Mr. & Mrs…… might be a little hard to see with the light bouncing around , afraid my iPhone photos does not do this room justice. I used sparkling silver ornaments and glass cylinders to add that soft holiday glow…accenting with ornaments in shades of teal and blue (a color used through out their home) Large and small silver snowflakes add a whimsical touch for all to enjoy, I  hung a few small snowflakes in their daughters room, I wish I could see her little eyes light up when she notices them!

White serving bowls/dishes only, for food always looks best on white (there is a reason restaurants use white) Cut pine fills vases and along with scented candles the freshness makes you feel as if you are surrounded by pine trees.  I love what I do, styling people & rooms, an entire home, changing people’s lives getting them healthy & fit…not bragging here because I don’t have fifty clients but more than a few, they keep me busy and happy all year through!

XOXO

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Come in From the Cold

unnamed (18)unnamed (20)unnamed (19)Here we go again…the rain, oh that friggin rain! Except this time its a pretty terrible storm. Six to nine inches of rain, insane crazy winds from thirty to seventy miles per hour depending which part of California you live in. Oh hello winter! You might have snow days on the East Coast, in Cali… we call it a rain day. Cancelled all my training appointments that were private in home and face time training only (just a little safer!)

The morning started out with a client early AM,  able to climb back into bed with my kitties and cozy up. Tried to read my magazine which is nearly impossible with a twelve pound fur ball holding it down, not to mention I feel guilty ignoring her.  Moving onto this afternoon, just a little while ago….poured some Champagne pulled out the snacks & sat down with my favorite cozy scarf on my lap  (biggest scarf I have ever owned) and I am going to attempt to read my Cali Style magazine yet again! (no cat this time) Knock on the door, Fed Ex… my Christmas Cards have come! At least I will get something accomplished today.

XOXO

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